The Mistresses Want an Apology. Really?

A few weeks ago, Tiger Woods stopped the world again. He came out to apologize to a small group of family and friends. He tried to appear repentive and contrite. His apology at least to me fell flat. Clearly his greatest concern is still being in control and not necessarily being real. I can't put my finger on it but his words just didn't ring true, at least not to me.

The next day however a few of the mistresses made statements to the effect that they were disappointed and hurt that Tiger had chosen not to include them in his apology. I was baffled, disturbed even that they would make such a comment. Since this blog is really for women and their real issues, I have begun to wonder, what are we as women doing to each other? Did Tiger behave badly? Yes. Does Elan deserve an apology? Clearly. But which of these women didn't know that he was married when they met him? He is only one of the most recognizable celebrities on earth. They knew he was married, but decided to have a relationship with him anyway. So why do they need an apology? If you make the decision as an adult to walk out in the rain, you don't ask for an apology from Mother Nature for getting wet. You knew what you were doing when you decided to step out in the rain. I have become quite irritated with it all. I take no responsibility away from Tiger for hurting his wife, family and professional brand. But women...what are we thinking? Do we think it is ok to cheat with another woman's husband because our loneliness and pain are the only thing that we care about? Are we so insecure or afraid of being alone that we settle for sharing another woman's man? Are we so simple that we walk in to these situations pumped up on selfishness or blinded by love and think it's okay to be the pawn used to destroy or betray another woman? I just think we as women are smarter than that. We have to have a greater opinion of ourselves. Or minimally at least understand that if you choose the mistress behavior you choose to be left in the dark once the affair comes to light. If he lies and cheats on the one that he keeps in the mansion, he will surely lie and cheat on the Waffle House waitress. Many of these women are educated, attractive and desireable in a number of ways. Adding all these factors together still doesn't make the equation make sense. Women we must do better, be better and require and demand better, if not we'll continue to make mistakes and be the mistake that will continue to lead to your own downfall.